Mother-In-Law Wants Expecting Parents To Run Baby Names By Her For Approval

The Reddit user stated that she hasn't had problems with her MIL in the past, but ever since the couple announced their pregnancy, things have taken a turn. She ended up seeking out advice from the community.

"My MIL is mostly a person who is easy to get along with, but for some reason, the lady has snapped after we announced that I'm pregnant. We let her get out all of her excitement, but didn't really encourage it. She keeps doing this weird thing where she refers to the baby as 'her' baby. If I can be honest... I'm sure it'll change as time goes on, but I find the whole thing rather boring," she wrote.

"It's really not that exciting or interesting, and I cannot relate to women who never shut up about it. It's like the only thing anyone wants to talk to me about," she wrote.

Many of us can relate to that!

"MIL was over a few weeks ago and started talking names. She told me to give her a list and she'd go through and let us know which ones she liked or didn't like.

I asked her why that was necessary, and she said 'Oh, you know! Just making sure we're on the same page,'" she said.

"I asked for clarification to that, why we'd need to be on the same page, and she started getting a bit cagey about it. 'Oh you know. Just one of those things. Gotta make sure everyone's on board with the name.'

At that point, I cleared my throat and said, very kindly but firmly, 'There's no reason for anyone else to be 'on board' with the names we've chosen,'" she added.

"She got a bit upset at that and said, 'Well it's my grandchild! My baby!'

I said 'No, she's not your baby. Grandchild, yes. But... you don't think you get 'a say' in anything involving her, do you? Like... you don't think you get any say in her name, how she's raised, what schools she goes to, how she dresses, any of it, right? You know you're not the parent here, right?'"

"I just got up and said I was bored with this conversation and went to the backyard to go read in the sun while she melted down to my husband about how I'm stealing all the joy from her and that don't I get that grandma is the most important role she'll ever play?" the expecting mom wrote.

Many people said that it's not the grandma's place to have such a big say.

"Stand your ground I'm so proud of you! That’s just insane thinking she’d have a say in the name and threw a fit when she didn’t get her way. What was she expecting? She already had kids, it’s your turn," one person commented.

"If I acted that way in front of my son, he would 1) boot me out of his house so fast my head would spin, and 2) block me froM all his social media. And damn if I’d ever see my granddaughter. Why? Because I raised him with some damn autonomy. He and his [girlfriend] have every right and responsibility to make every decision for and about their daughter," she said.

Most of the Reddit community did and the expecting mom shared an update thanking people for their kind words and support.

How would you have reacted if you were in this new mom's position?