Doctor Husband Complains That His Pregnant Wife Is Too "Lazy"

Let's first meet the hero of this story, a 32-year-old physician. He is married to a fellow 32-year-old physician, and he works a lot:

I work a lot (currently 55-60 hours a week on average) and am an attending physician. My wife is still finishing her fellowship training. But her fellowship is outpatient based and her hours are great. Maybe 30 hours a week she is in clinic.

The couple is currently expecting their first child. Ever since his wife became pregnant, she's changed. It might be because she has a human growing inside her.

She lost interest in work, we had recent fights about her wanting to quit medicine and stop working entirely to focus on caring for the kid.

Oh but it gets worse for our hero. He says she also doesn't help around the house as much anymore!

I have to do all the laundry, cooking, dishwashing, trash, bathroom cleaning because she says she is tired all the time.

But it's not because she's incapable of moving or doing anything. He says she still finds time hang out with her girlfriends when she's not busy watching TV. Again, this could be because she's growing a human and requires peer support.

Things finally reached a boiling point for our hero recently:

I blew up at her yesterday when she didn’t go out to pick up some groceries when I asked her to prior to leaving for work. I yelled at her that being pregnant does not automatically make you disabled and unable to do anything.

In his defense, he was upset about the stroller she bought for their unborn child that they can 100 percent afford:

I was also still upset she had blown $1200 on a ridiculous Uppababy stroller without checking with me first last week (for context, I make at least $550k a year at my current working hours, she makes about 60k as a fellow) because I feel like I’m the one shouldering 90% of that expense.

Classy move to make everyone know you're the breadwinner. You know she is growing a human, right?

Our hero closes his story by asking "Am I the complete dick here for saying that or what?"

The first commenter provides the answer:

Yes, YTA, complete dick, you need to give your wife a serious apology and take a more constructive approach to problem solving.

He/she goes on:

As for the stroller, man WTF. You need to check your attitude about money quickly because that shit tears marriages apart. You may be earning 90% of the money, but if you think that makes you 9 times as important as your wife you aren't going to be married for very long.

Another commenter makes a good point: if this house work is such a problem in the marriage, maybe use some of that $550,000 to hire a housekeeper:

At 500k a year they can hire a daily housekeeper for 30-40k a year and literally never have to deal with any of the shit he is nit picking about.

Our hero is a man, therefore has zero understanding of what it is like to be pregnant. One commenter explains:

YTA. Being pregnant can basically turn you into a slug. It's like having mononucleosis. There's just no energy. I assume she's somewhat extroverted, so she wants to spend time with friends, but she's still physically just exhausted.

"Give me some empathy here." That's how this guy responds to his post courtesy of an amendment.

It is still hard to take his side. We all know how hard medical professionals have it and how tough it can be. And yes, a couple needs to balance things to help each other.

But come on, guy. She's pregnant!

A bunch of fun, right? Of course, there were some people around to point out the disturbing facts of the situation:

The fact that we have to explain to him, a doctor, that pregnancy is hard on the body is...really really scary.